“Chivalry is Dead”
Yes, it is. As it should be.
(Unless you are reenacting medieval culture)
Let’s backtrack a little. Women’s outcry about the death of chivalry, has been both prominent on social media as well as in public spaces and it’s an issue I felt I needed to address. Here, let me give you an example:
And then a bit more subtle:
(There’s so much wrong with this picture. Real man? Seriously? What if he doesn’t do it? Does it make him a monkey?)
The issue with these memes however can be summed up in this picture:
The reason why chivalry has been argued against by feminists or women in general, is quite simple: it makes women seem dependent on men’s help. The Oxford dictionaries define modern chivalry as “courteous behaviour, especially that of a man towards women”. We commonly associate courteous behaviour with actions such as holding the door open, “ladies first”, moving the chair for women, etc. And that is all nice. However, if we want to keep the word “chivalry” in our dictionary, we should start associating it with non-age/gender specific courteous behaviour. Assumptions such as “oh, he’s helping me because I’m a woman” or “he should help me, I’m a woman” should become a thing of the past. Relations, no matter how brief should be based on respect and courtesy, making everyone happy, including feminists such as the one below.